12 POINTS ABOUT IRRESISTIBLE ATTRACTION

1. The rapidity with which you assimilate truth is the degree to which you are irresistibly attractive. To assimilate truth means that you accept what is and that you welcome truth (what's really so, apart from your interpretation, belief, or wish) vs. resist it.

2. We all attract very very easily and well: it's a question of upping the quality of what you're attracting. Extreme self-care, service to others, Self-ishness, a strong Personal Foundation, having more than you need (a reserve), self-esteem and self-worth are areas in which to work in order to feel more attractive to yourself. Giving up striving, pushing, commitments, and external benchmarks also makes you more naturally attractive.

3. When you know who you are, you will attract others who are ready for you.
We are everything, really; the good and the bad. How well we are able to include all parts of ourselves dictates how attractive we will feel to ourselves.

4. The more you can help others succeed, the more attractive you will be in business.
The focus should be on making the customer more successful vs. extolling the virtues of the product.

5. Being the best at what you do professionally will attract others who appreciate what that took.
When you develop your skills or craft to the highest level, you shift from being competent to being masterful. At this place, the focus is on creativity rather than performance.

6. When your vision is simple and clear, you'll attract those ready to work with you.
A vision is not what should happen or deserves to happen or what you think must happen. A vision is simply what is going to happen - a slam dunk. The timing is less important. A vision is less about the future and more about today. This, because a person with a vision already acts as if the vision lives in the present moment - they know it's merely a matter of time, not if.

7. When you have a reserve (more than you need), you will start attracting those who don't need you.
When your needs aren't fully met, you attract other folks whose needs aren't met either. But as you get more than you need, you attract folks who have reached a similar place.

8. Drop your agenda and respond to what's coming at you right now.
If your to-do list, or must-accomplish list is pressing, the best of what could come to you won't. This is because you're too full. In order to be attractive, you need to have room for stuff.

9. Master the art of being unconditionally constructive.
Being unconditionally constructive means that every single word out of your mouth is positive, is truthful, furthers the action, is accurate, and strengthens the recipient.

10. Raise your personal standards until even YOU are impressed.
Raid personal and professional growth will slow down unless you continually raise standards. Standards are not morals, given morals are about right and wrong. Standards are what you choose to be right for you.

11. It's often best to take the past of least resistance. If you push, you become less attractive.
Being attractive means you don't have to have something. If you have to have something, you can't afford attraction.

12. When you buff up what you already have, you become more attractive.
To buff up means to make perfect, polish up, put your personal stamp on. One of the principles of attraction is that we often won't get what we most want to attract to us until we've shown that we take extraordinary care of what we've already attracted.

**Reprinted with the exclusive permission of author Joan Cook (www.joancook.com).